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Thoughts on To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before

Hey Virtually Readers! Shanti and I recently watched To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before separately. I thought it might be fun to do a co-discussion with what we thought about it. I’m italics, Shanti is bold, let’s go! 

Ps: a review of the TATBILB book// A review of Always and Forever, Lara Jean

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So one thing that’s quite noticeable in the books and the movies is the ~aesthetics~. Lara Jean is particular about her outfits and clothes and room decorations. Can you talk about any of your favourite Lara Jean outfits, or how you felt the aesthetics translated off the page?

Shanti: The movie was so pinterest! I liked Lara Jean’s outfit at the party, and also right before the party (see here). The books were very pastel, and I think the movie translated that really effectively, as well as having moments of bright colours, like the outfits when Peter first confronts Lara Jean about the letters (so much yellow!) and when Lara Jean tries to ‘break up’ with Peter, just before the ski trip.

Like when I read the books, I finished the movie inspired to redecorate my room and do some baking, although I ended up doing neither.


Was there any time you felt like the movie differed significantly from the book?

Shanti: The motivation for the letters being sent out totally changed, and I think that the one in the book made more sense to me. On the other hand, the movie kinda addressed why Lara Jean addressed the envelopes, which made a lot more sense.

Shar: Yeah I really was expecting Lara Jean to become angry with Kitty like in the books, but that didn’t happen. Also, the ending was borrowed from the start of the second book. This makes sense because in the book, the whole thing ends on a cliffhanger (Lara Jean hasn’t told Peter about her feelings) but borrowing part of the second book made the ending more complete. Also, Margot was less of an important character, I think?


What was your favourite scene?

I liked the scene where Lara Jean and her dad hung out in the cafe, and the one where Peter watched a movie with Lara Jean and Kitty. It was so wholesome and also fun. Also I loved the part where Chris interrogated Lara Jean’s dad, asking why he wanted to be a gynecologist.

Shar: I totally loved Kitty! I thought the actress did a really good job capturing her spirit. I actually quite liked how the beginning and end scenes (Lara Jean in a field romanticising) tied up the movie quite neatly.

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What part of the movie did you relate to most?

Shanti: I really appreciated how the message is about daring to put yourself out there a little bit. That’s definitely something I’ve been trying to do since I moved out of home, and I think I’m getting better at it. It was a nice reminder that this doesn’t come easy for anyone. I also liked how stressed Lara Jean was about driving…so relatable (I cannot drive because this is how I react when people try to teach me).

Shar: I really liked the way the movie didn’t make it seem like Lara Jean was bad for not being a hugely adventurous person or not doing the whole high school party thing (because heaven knows I didn’t) but how the movie showed her trying new things instead of taking away from her homebody habits.


What food did this book make you want to eat?

Shanti: Popcorn. Always popcorn. I adore popcorn! But cake is great too…

Shar: Personally, I liked the cupcake scene.


Have you watched this? What are your feelings bout book-to-movie adaptations? Have you read the books?



4 thoughts on “Thoughts on To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before

  1. honestly enjoyed both the movie and the books, though the movie was what made me want to read them in the first place! also all f the scenes were so cute especially the one where josh comes to her house and lara jean jumps out the window and falls lol. just every scene with kavinsky in it??? love him. an ll the characters are so lovely and fun and relateable. they family dynamics in the books were well translated in the movie, though margot’s importance was kind of reduced. alot.


  2. No one in my personal life has seen this film, so it was lovely to read such a chatty review, thanks guys! I really like this format.

    I haven’t read the books (yet) but I loved the film’s aesthetic and how carefully it deals with each of the character’s individual feelings. For me, the scene in the diner where her dad finally opens up and tells Lara Jean about her mother was one of the most touching ones. I really liked that there was much more to her personal development in the film than her dating a guy.


  3. Ahh what a wonderful post, I loved reading both of your pov on this movie! ❤ I really enjoyed this adaptation as well, I loved the overall aesthetics and thought the actors did such a great job, too. I was a bit sad that Margot wasn't that important compared to the book, either, but it was still great and yes for Kitty! I thought the actress did a great job with her 😀


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